Dump your worries

We all have worries. They may be there, but we all know that our worries will not bring us further. We need to understand that we are one choice away from our growth and we need to take responsibility to make that happen. 

♥

Leave your worries behind in 5 steps

 

1. Understand that we have a monkey mind. 

A monkey mind is like monkeys and trees—it jumps from one thought to another incessantly. It often stops at certain thoughts before it jumps to another thought. This stop is what we call ‘worry.’ When we worry, we should know that worrying is a natural part of the thought’s process, but it requires awareness to stop it.

 

2. Step back and look at the bigger picture. 

I like to compare worrying to a plant. The more we water it, the more it grows. Worrying can drag us in—the more we worry, the more the situation becomes disturbing. A valuable solution is to take ourselves out of the situation and look at it from a different angle. See it objectively from an altered lens. When you do so, you’ll realize that the problem doesn’t require much worry.

Looking at your ‘problem’ objectively helps to prevent being sucked into worrying.

 

3. Know that worrying won’t help in any way. 

Worrying can’t solve any problem. There’s a quote in the ‘wear sunscreen’ speech that says: “worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum.” Remember all the times you worried in the past and try to investigate if your worry has helped in any way. Reflect the result on your present moment to see that worrying is only a waste of mental energy.

 

4. You’re not in control of everything.

The reason why we worry is because we need to feel a sense of control over things. We hope to control the outcome. So, we won’t have to face unwanted results. Know that what’s meant to happen will fall into place. Uncertainty isn’t terrifying. Befriend it and know it is a natural, smooth energy that only brings us the best.

 

5. Focus on the present. 

How we deal with our present determines our past and our future. That said, we can use our present moment to focus on what’s happening ‘now.’ When we practice mindfulness, we actually help with the realization of things falling into place. Things flow easier when we don’t push them to happen.

 

Source: Uplift

BUSINESS TALK

When you write your goals on paper or speak about it in public, you will stick to it and you will make it happen. So that’s why I launch the Quarterly BUSINESS TALK SERIES. In this talk, I will share with you how the past few months have gone and what I will focus on in the coming months.

 

Plans with my blog

This is the launch of the Quarterly Series of BUSINESS TALK. I couldn’t wait to the end of Q3, so I thought I just start with an acquaintance about the start of my plans and what happened the last couple of months. I will tell you about my transformation, why and how I took courses and about the struggles and success of finding your Ideal Customer/Client.

The last few months were about starting my online business. At the beginning, I didn’t realize that I would set up a business where I could generate an income to live from. I worked with a few mentors, and that really helped me to focus on what is important to do now and what to do later. My business is up and running now, but I still need to make a few changes this Quarter.

 

Transformation

When I started to write in April on several blogs, I didn’t know I would work online for myself. I just love to write, but I also had some other skills already. And from that moment I started to create things with my interest.

For the last 2 years, I studied Office management and I worked for a recruitment start-up. There I learned everything about responsibilities of planning, finance, recruitment, online systems and some other creative experiences. I am curious and I always want to know more about different subjects. I work fast and I love to create new products or helping other people with their business or products.

So.. during the process of building my website, I had to let go of perfectionism. Because during the process, I recognized the pattern that I always wanted to control something. As a Business Owner, you are allowed to change your product when and how you want to do it. It was time for me to do what I want and create solutions for people who want to learn from me and want to work with me on my terms.

At the beginning, I felt not sure about it. Until my aunt told me: ‘’Joyce, you’re already doing it, so just go to the Chamber of Commerce and make it official’’. I registered my business the same evening via their website and a week later everything was official.

 

Courses

Nowadays, Information is not free anymore. People ask money for their knowledge. I definitely understand that, because if you share everything for free, you can no longer meet your life needs.

I followed a Digital Marketing course before I started my online business. This training was given by an Affiliate Marketing Company from the United States. I accidentally encountered my ‘Badass mentor’ via Facebook. She is also from The Netherlands, and after a few calls, we started working together. She helped me through the steps, and that really changed my view about working online. It is all about mindset, trusting the process and get to know your personal needs.

I learned a lot about how to make yourself visible to the world. Being part of a team or having a mentor is one the most important things if you start running your own business. You can’t do it alone, you need a place where you can ask your questions. Business Buddies will give you other insides. You can still make your own decisions, but sometimes you just need someone who is telling you the different side of the business, product or whatever you want to talk about.

To me, it is really important to feel commitment with someone. Knowing that you can reach them anytime and anywhere will help you a lot. Setting yourself free from assumptions that you can’t do it starts by tackle your inner critic and make that Wonderful Idea in your mind happen!

For now, I paused the course for a moment, to set up my business first. I will combine those two in the future. We discussed that this would be the best way to create different income streams. I will write more about it in a later BUSINESS TALK.

Besides this course, I follow a lot of Business Owners online and I read books to expand my knowledge. For example:

• Big Magic
• You Are A Badass
• The 4-hour workweek
• Rich Dad’s CASHFLOW Quadrant

 

Finding your Ideal Customer/Client

Finding clients was the most difficult part of the process. Not to find them, but the patient you need to have. You need to build real relationships. Sometimes you feel the commitment immediately, sometimes it will take months before you start working with them.

I started to work with 2 clients. I work as a Virtual Assistant at House of Tax and as an Inspiration Coach/ VA at Vraagelkaar. Both interesting businesses. The first one is set up for Business Starters in The Netherlands. The language of Tax is difficult as hell for a lot of new Business Owners. Kim de Jong, The Big Boss Lady, makes it easy to read for them. Besides, she and her team will coach them to the next money level of their business.

Vraagelkaar is a social organization. We help people who need extra help or want to meet new friends for a specific activity. As Inspiration Coach, we help these people to connect with each other. Besides, we organize Vraagelkaar Cafés where these people meet-up with each other. The name of the organization translated to English means ‘’ask each other’’. So people can ask a question on our platform or react on these requests. We monetize these questions and are there to make the connections faster. Everybody needs a friend, and we will make that happen.

‘’Ask each other, just do it.”

The next Business Talk will be posted in October. 

Barefoot Experience Series #2

RI didn’t realize that Walking Barefoot would take a bigger part in my life than I just wrote about online the first time. And as I promised my friend, Chris, Editor in Chief of The Bassist, I would write more about my Barefoot Experiences. So here it is 🙂 

The cover picture is made by Chris.

When I just started blogging, my first blog was about my Barefoot Experience. The first time I wrote something online was on Yoors. An independent platform where your content stays your content. I deleted my account last week because my business is up and running now and I’ll host my own website and registered my business in The Netherlands. So the content of my blog about my first Barefoot Experience is now online on this website.

As a young girl I was camping a lot with my family and walking barefoot on the campsite was more than normal. Maybe if you read this, you think that this is very normal in your life. But I forgot how good it is to walk barefoot a few times per week or month.

So, for the people who didn’t read the first episode of Barefoot Experience, I will give a small summary of it.

Credits: Goashape, Unsplash

The start

Last year I went to a psychedelic party in Hungary, called Ozora. The first days I still walked on my flip-flops or Palladiums. The second day I lost my flip-flops in the mud and a few hours later I could not recognize my Palladiums anymore. So I started to walk barefoot. There were paths with pebbles and because of the heat, my feet were burning as hell… I need to take a decision, or walking barefoot on some pebbles in the shadow or take another (longer) route and walking in the burning sun. After 2 days my feet started used to it and I became a professional Barefoot Walker… When I came back in The Netherlands, I didn’t even know how to walk on shoes or even choose one of them.

Until so far my Barefoot Experience there. I am sure that there will come up some memories sometimes and I will write more about it.

‘’I just wanted more of it, living easy and happy everywhere I go’’

 

Picture: Nataraj

Barefoot parties

So.. in the mean time I started to go to Barefoot parties. For example Nataraj Barefoot party at Meijer aan Zee in Zandvoort (The Netherlands). You can dance like you never danced before. I think you can do this everywhere, but if you don’t feel confident in expressing yourself in a large group of people, this would be a great place to start.

Besides dancing Barefoot on the beach they organizing a lot of parties in Club Lite in Amsterdam. So you will never be bored during the winter.

At the beach, they will always ensure that there are creative things to do. It has always something to do with creative expression in the category of body, mind, and food. I want to share some of these activities with you.

 

Creative expression

Yoga
The organization gives their guests an various experience. You can do yoga with professional acrobats and artists. There are some shows at the end of the party and people are just practicing yoga if they want to.

Hula hoop
As I said above, the organization would love to give their guests more experiences than just only dance barefoot. So, Adrienne Csanadi is giving hula hoop workshops at the Nataraj Beach party. She also makes hula hoops, so you can buy one there, or ask her if she will send the hoops to your home address.

You can follow Adrienne here on Youtube.

 

Credits: Sam Tobiana

 

Coconuts Cocktails & Food
There is always a vegan buffet at these parties. It is various what you get and it is always more than enough! Maybe I should say, it is always too much!

The coconuts are one of the things that make this party feel you’re on a holiday. You can buy a coconut alcohol-free just with fresh coconut water or the coconut is filled with fresh coconut water and Malibu. There is a working space where you can crack your coconut after consumption. Then you can eat the coconut after drinking this delicious refreshment.

 

If you want to join one of these Barefootparties, feel free to buy a ticket. The next Nataraj Barefoot party is 3 September 2017.